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What is it about men and ego?

Believe it or not,as I meet more and more guys everyday I find out that a good number of young men battle with ego.They continually mistake ego for self respect.I t is important that every human being should have a measure of respect for himself/herself.In fact it is mandatory because in reality,you would only be respected when you respect yourself.
I meet young single men who do not know the importance of sorry,thank you,please etc.It is to say the least appalling.I always go like are you serious?Of course they don't even think their actions are wrong and oh!,God help you if you ever tried to point it out.He would argue why he didn't need to use the word.Ego has so punished guys eh...*laughs*.At times it is a mixed feeling the situation leaves me with.A full grown man is always ever concerned about himself and not sensitive to other peoples feelings.


Take for example,a guy meets a lady he fancies and decides to ask her on a date or whatever you may call it and for reasons best known to the young lady she turns down the offer and he persists and she turns him down and he still persists and yet she turns him down and then,feeling he has tried enough to please her and she wouldn't submit to his will,he decides to become angry and drop the feelings he thought he had for her but simply get back at her.He pulls every string to get her eating from his palm just to stroke his ego and then dumps her like a pack of card so that she gets the same feeling he supposedly felt.How sad that an independent minded grown man should think of such derogatory manner to solve his emotional illusion.Did it not occur to him that just like he has taste,the young lady may have her own taste too and he just may not taste nice to her.Why force someone to love you?If you respect yourself really,you would rather go for someone who would respect you and regard your feelings.Why trade your self esteem for pride?I mean must it always be about you?Do people no longer have the right to choose who to hang out with?Oh my gosh!...

I steadily concluded that immaturity fans the flame of ego in a man.A real man is in control of his emotions and so guides his actions aright.He is not hasty in decision making and he doesn't degrade himself for temporary pleasure ride of revenge.EHHH!Was that what happened to you?...eyaaa!.I hear you.The scenario I painted mustn't happen to me or anyone I know to be related to as part of our reality today.It hasn't happened to me but I over heard guys discussing this and my heart bled.I lost my respect for them instantly.These are would be husbands,fathers etc.What would they teach their children about love,morals and goodness?Just wondering...

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Ogar said…
Really?are you serious Amanda?Please I wouldn't want you to make a general claim here.Not all single guys have ego problem and some married men still have ego issues.I appreciate that you feel bad about what the guys said anyway.It is totally unnecessary.
August 15, 2011 at 9:19 PM
Ojinika Mba-Kalu said…
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August 15, 2011 at 9:56 PM
Anonymous said…
O jare,ijiya!Many naija guys are so full of themselves,its beyond belief.They are either insecure or damn right immature.In short tufiakwa!
August 15, 2011 at 10:02 PM
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