The Woman's Place

Until very recently,I have been a great fan of love for marriage or nothing else.I slept and woke up with the thought of getting married to a man I truly loved.Yes,I was conscious of the fact that he should love me too,but I guess I was more interested in my love for  him rather than his for me.Sick?Yes,now I know.The sad thing is that there are many women like that,who just want to be married for nothing else but love! Now don't get me wrong,I am still an advocate of love for relationships.Love is a beautiful thing and anyone who finds it, is blessed.Believe me,its been proven that love has been more a burden than a strength in marriage.Think of when the money is no longer flowing in,when he becomes promiscuous,when she begins to nag,when the kids delay in coming,when in laws become a pain in the neck and all that... You see,it is often said that love is more than a feeling,it is forgiving,why don't we forgive when he commits adultery.It is transparent,why do we lie to peopl...

Have you ever been in such a situation that you are in love with someone more than you believe he/she loves you and yet someone else whom you have no feeling for loves you more than you can possibly love anyone? It's weird and quite complex but very real for a dear friend of mine who is more or less in a dilemma now.He want's this babe so badly it hurts and she is in love with a guy who seems not to love her as much.He has tried to prove his love to her by being kind to her and going out of his way just to please her.She doesn't even seem to notice it,instead she goes on and on about how she is getting on with the other guy.For my friend,he is fighting a worthy battle,and I call it a loose battle.huh?Yes,I mean absolute-factly. How can you waste your time on a woman who is clearly in love with  another and is everly proud to resound her news to anyone who cares to listen including yourself? .Come to think of it,if my friend ever convinced this babe( which I doubt he can d...

In about a month from now,general elections wil take place to select leaders who wil take Nigerians to that promised land which every common Nigerian yearns for.However,I am more scared than amazed at the high rate of killings and violence all around Nigeria.It is not as if thevents are new to human kind.I mean violence,killings and all that.No!,they aer not,but my worry is the mode of perpetration.Bombing?.No way.This was definitely very alien to the nigerian people.At least, I have been around for more than a quarter of a century and no such event has ever been reported.We only saw it on television happening elsewhere but not our dear Nigeria. First,it was the October 1 twin bombing while Nigerians were celebrating 50 years of independence,then the new year's eve bombing in a place where merry makers were just catching fun.It was all quiet after that.People kept speculating about the possible initiators and executors of these acts.At a time arrests were made but we hardly hear ...