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Strictly by IV!

I have always believed that weddings should be one of the happiest days in a couple's life.Overtime,I have seen couples swing from happy mood to sad because there are a lot more people than they budgeted for present at their wedding.In my dear country Nigeria,believe me,weddings are jamboree occassions.Invited or not,known to the couple or not,you can attend a wedding if you want to.I sincerely think that knowing the number of people coming to your wedding will help you curb expenses and stay within budget.

Sadly,many people feel that weddings should be a happy moment for everyone and anyone present at the wedding as in come one,come all!.Well,if you have a blank cheque you can open your doors to the whole country!Some people actually think it is rude to be strict with the number of people you invite to your wedding,anyway you could choose to add +2 people besides the name of whomever you give an invitation.I personally think that the best way to have a fantastic wedding is to accomodate guests strictly by invitation.I would not want to have guests standing in the reception hall or not having food to eat at all.Nobody will blame the uninvited guests for attending the wedding or excuse people's eat-today- and- forget- tomorrow's attitude in Nigeria,no way!.Everyone will rather talk about how clumsy the wedding was and blame the couple for fixing a wedding when it was obvious they couldn't cater for their guests...uninvited inclusive!

I remember someone who planned a carnival style wedding.Oh!,it was beautiful,i can still see the reception hall...an outlandish hall like a castle.I was bewildered by the sight,the colour was gold and purple from the golden chandeliers hanging down the ceiling to the purple carpet so soft,I was tempted to pull off my sandals.The buffet setting;the tables were clothed in purple lace adorned by gold coloured tumblers and cutleries and oh my God!how can I forget that cake.The most beautiful cake I ever set my eyes on.It had a fish pond with two live gold fishes in it!It was a party for all,not less than 1000 thousand people attended that wedding.I must tell you however,that just two weeks after that wedding the groom lost his mega paying job and his new bride has no job either!.Hey,na witch!.Well,life has it's own way of serving us with dishes we don't want.We must always be smart in life to avoid issues like this.Everyone had their fill on that wedding day but how many of those people supported the couple in their time of need after the wedding?

Whatever the case,the decision is entirely the couple's to make and not the guests of the wedding like we erroneously believe in Naija.However,both families must reach an agreement on this issue so that balance can be achieved.So what do you prefer;strictly by IV or come one,come all?

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Unknown said…
Amanda,you make believe that Nigeria is a very interesting country.I had a good laugh after I read this.You don't walk into a wedding univited here in England.It's not done.Maybe I could visit Nigeria someday...lol
August 16, 2010 at 3:33 PM
Anonymous said…
I agree wendy, UK is not like that. well, na Naija for you. unless you want to do it closed doors and hire a door man who will check everyones invited.
November 8, 2010 at 3:36 AM
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