At a point in my life,it was obvious I lost so many friends.Oh,but truly, life sucks at times...
The frequent phone buzzing,the numerous e-mails,the endless list of acquaintances and so-called friends who just appeared at your doorstep without invitation or prior notice simply disappeared.I suddenly did not matter anymore.A drama of betrayal unfolded before me and taught me that every scene in the act was the interpretation of the human world.A world void of true love and the gift of sharing love even in the smallest of ways.
A friend of mine was recently betrayed by someone he was helping out.So bad it was that his life was even threatened by the guy.You see,no matter how much we may want to judge bad behaviour and conclude that there is no good reward for bad behaviours,always remember that everything anyone does is done for a reason.People can be bullies in order to get their way,they can turn abusive,put others down,put up all sorts of behaviour just to get some kind of attention,be it positive or negative.The truth remains that human beigns seek for reward for every behaviour they exhibit.
When you find that people in your life are abusive or behave badly, you should be asking yourself: "What reward are they looking for from this behaviour?"; and once you determine the reward they seek ... make absolutely certain that you do not provide it for them in a way that can be interpreted as a reward for bad behaviour.Exactly,the action my friend took.I was challenged.
People should not be denied love because they have acted badly.The moment you reward a bad behaviour with outright punishment without first showing the one who acted badly that there is a better approach to life by exhibiting good character yourself,you put yourself in thesame level with him/her.Every man has a conscience and can actually tell the right from the wrong,we only most times rebel for the lack of love around us.Every child needs attention, show them how they can get it from you through good behaviour. Tell your boss or your spouse how they can get what they need from you by speaking kindly and with respect.It is simply about sharing love...
The world we live in is not dangerous because of the so many evil people in it.The world is dangerous because the so called good people just look on and do nothing about evil.Is there therefore,anyone who is truly good when we keep giving evil the upper hand in all spheres of life?Often times we fail to respond to kind words nor even praise good behaviour,thereby making it seem like treading on good paths is sheer waste of time and so unconsciously but surely we force our family and friends to take the bad paths always.
"People do what works!"...When we, in our own small ways share love by showing good behaviour and using kind words really works,bad behaviour and abusive language will become extinct.
Take a deep breath before you say that next word...
The frequent phone buzzing,the numerous e-mails,the endless list of acquaintances and so-called friends who just appeared at your doorstep without invitation or prior notice simply disappeared.I suddenly did not matter anymore.A drama of betrayal unfolded before me and taught me that every scene in the act was the interpretation of the human world.A world void of true love and the gift of sharing love even in the smallest of ways.
A friend of mine was recently betrayed by someone he was helping out.So bad it was that his life was even threatened by the guy.You see,no matter how much we may want to judge bad behaviour and conclude that there is no good reward for bad behaviours,always remember that everything anyone does is done for a reason.People can be bullies in order to get their way,they can turn abusive,put others down,put up all sorts of behaviour just to get some kind of attention,be it positive or negative.The truth remains that human beigns seek for reward for every behaviour they exhibit.
When you find that people in your life are abusive or behave badly, you should be asking yourself: "What reward are they looking for from this behaviour?"; and once you determine the reward they seek ... make absolutely certain that you do not provide it for them in a way that can be interpreted as a reward for bad behaviour.Exactly,the action my friend took.I was challenged.
People should not be denied love because they have acted badly.The moment you reward a bad behaviour with outright punishment without first showing the one who acted badly that there is a better approach to life by exhibiting good character yourself,you put yourself in thesame level with him/her.Every man has a conscience and can actually tell the right from the wrong,we only most times rebel for the lack of love around us.Every child needs attention, show them how they can get it from you through good behaviour. Tell your boss or your spouse how they can get what they need from you by speaking kindly and with respect.It is simply about sharing love...
The world we live in is not dangerous because of the so many evil people in it.The world is dangerous because the so called good people just look on and do nothing about evil.Is there therefore,anyone who is truly good when we keep giving evil the upper hand in all spheres of life?Often times we fail to respond to kind words nor even praise good behaviour,thereby making it seem like treading on good paths is sheer waste of time and so unconsciously but surely we force our family and friends to take the bad paths always.
"People do what works!"...When we, in our own small ways share love by showing good behaviour and using kind words really works,bad behaviour and abusive language will become extinct.
Take a deep breath before you say that next word...
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