Most people especially teenagers make a lot of mistakes when going into a relationship.Have you ever asked yourself the purpose of this relationship?Is the person trustworthy?Many young boys and girls feel they need to have someone to share intimate problems with.This is not particularly a problem as long as the relationship adds value to you as a person but it becomes a real problem when you indulge in acts not right for you as a young person.
Girls you must know that your body is priceless and whenever you decide to share it with anybody,it must be with someone worth it and better still under the right circumstances,say marriage.Don't be deceived with what guys say today;Oh,no girl is a virgin today;Oh,its barbaric;Guys don't appreciate virginity anymore.Nonsense!.Don't mind them,blatant liars.These same men secretly nurture in their minds the opportunity of marrying a virgin.Men always adore women who they married as a virgin and they even boast about it.However,I keep wondering why men hardly keep themselves.Virginity is not only trendy for women but for men too.Someone asked what I thought was a dumb question:If two virgins got married,who will teach who about the act of sex and I thought get serious,even a prostitute was a virgin once.Like they say,once upon a time begins a story!.Sex is an act which like anything else improves with practice over time.I stumbled on these truths on teenadvice.com and thought to share it.Enjoy...
How to tell somebody you are attracted to that you aren't ready to have sex.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: Lots
Here's How:
Take a deep breath and say these words, "No, I don't want to have sex".
If the question arises while you are kissing or fooling around, stop what you are doing and change the tone of the moment. Emphasize your words with actions.
Be prepared for questions and/or objections. Stay true to yourself and your stated feelings.
Calmly explain why you choose abstinence. List all of your reasons be they religious, moral, personal or situational (or any combination of these).
If you have had sex before don't let the other preson use this to bully you into it now, just because you have done it before doesn't mean you have to do it everytime you are asked.
Tell the other person how you feel about them and be honest. If you don't feel close enough to them yet, say so. If you really love them but aren't interested in sex, say so.
Tell the other person the depth of your commitment to abstinence. If you don't plan on having sex until you are married, say so. If you are curious but not ready, say so.
There is no reason for you to down play how you feel about sex or sex with this specific person. At times like this honesty is an absolute must.
If the other person keeps on pressing, say "No!" again. You may have to say this more than once to make them see you are serious.
Do not try to diffuse the tension with lots of kissing and/or other physical gestures, this will confuse your message of "No!".
Draw the line firmly and if the other person doesn't appear to be getting it, leave.
If the other person starts trying to coerce you or force you to have sex YELL "No!" and physically push them away. Leave and talk about it the next day.
If the other person pulls the old "If you loved me you'd do it" line retort with "If you loved me you'd wait". Sex is not a test of your love or feelings for another person and saying "No!" to sex does not mean you have failed to show your love.
If you feel uncertain of your ability to stay true to your initial "No!", leave. Your first instinct was to say no and now is not the time to second guess yourself.
Remind yourself that if it was meant to be with you and this other person it was meant to be right for both of you, not only one of you. Saying no now does not mean you are saying no forever.
Tips:
Abstinence is the only 100% effective form of birth control and the only way you can guarantee you won't catch an STD.
If you aren't a virgin you can still choose abstinence with pride, you are not a hypocrite if you say yes one time and no another, even if it is to the same person.
Having sex is a big deal and abstaining from sex is more than acceptable. Despite what rumors and gossip may suggest, virgins are a majority in most high schools, not a minority.
If you kiss sombody passionately or get into heavy fooling around this does not mean that you have to go all the way and it does not make you a tease.
Intimacy takes many forms, intercourse is not the only or best way to show somebody the depth of you feelings. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise.
Girls you must know that your body is priceless and whenever you decide to share it with anybody,it must be with someone worth it and better still under the right circumstances,say marriage.Don't be deceived with what guys say today;Oh,no girl is a virgin today;Oh,its barbaric;Guys don't appreciate virginity anymore.Nonsense!.Don't mind them,blatant liars.These same men secretly nurture in their minds the opportunity of marrying a virgin.Men always adore women who they married as a virgin and they even boast about it.However,I keep wondering why men hardly keep themselves.Virginity is not only trendy for women but for men too.Someone asked what I thought was a dumb question:If two virgins got married,who will teach who about the act of sex and I thought get serious,even a prostitute was a virgin once.Like they say,once upon a time begins a story!.Sex is an act which like anything else improves with practice over time.I stumbled on these truths on teenadvice.com and thought to share it.Enjoy...
How to tell somebody you are attracted to that you aren't ready to have sex.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: Lots
Here's How:
Take a deep breath and say these words, "No, I don't want to have sex".
If the question arises while you are kissing or fooling around, stop what you are doing and change the tone of the moment. Emphasize your words with actions.
Be prepared for questions and/or objections. Stay true to yourself and your stated feelings.
Calmly explain why you choose abstinence. List all of your reasons be they religious, moral, personal or situational (or any combination of these).
If you have had sex before don't let the other preson use this to bully you into it now, just because you have done it before doesn't mean you have to do it everytime you are asked.
Tell the other person how you feel about them and be honest. If you don't feel close enough to them yet, say so. If you really love them but aren't interested in sex, say so.
Tell the other person the depth of your commitment to abstinence. If you don't plan on having sex until you are married, say so. If you are curious but not ready, say so.
There is no reason for you to down play how you feel about sex or sex with this specific person. At times like this honesty is an absolute must.
If the other person keeps on pressing, say "No!" again. You may have to say this more than once to make them see you are serious.
Do not try to diffuse the tension with lots of kissing and/or other physical gestures, this will confuse your message of "No!".
Draw the line firmly and if the other person doesn't appear to be getting it, leave.
If the other person starts trying to coerce you or force you to have sex YELL "No!" and physically push them away. Leave and talk about it the next day.
If the other person pulls the old "If you loved me you'd do it" line retort with "If you loved me you'd wait". Sex is not a test of your love or feelings for another person and saying "No!" to sex does not mean you have failed to show your love.
If you feel uncertain of your ability to stay true to your initial "No!", leave. Your first instinct was to say no and now is not the time to second guess yourself.
Remind yourself that if it was meant to be with you and this other person it was meant to be right for both of you, not only one of you. Saying no now does not mean you are saying no forever.
Tips:
Abstinence is the only 100% effective form of birth control and the only way you can guarantee you won't catch an STD.
If you aren't a virgin you can still choose abstinence with pride, you are not a hypocrite if you say yes one time and no another, even if it is to the same person.
Having sex is a big deal and abstaining from sex is more than acceptable. Despite what rumors and gossip may suggest, virgins are a majority in most high schools, not a minority.
If you kiss sombody passionately or get into heavy fooling around this does not mean that you have to go all the way and it does not make you a tease.
Intimacy takes many forms, intercourse is not the only or best way to show somebody the depth of you feelings. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise.
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